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    The Two Stories That Touched Me Most About Senator Kennedy

    The past several days of stories, eulogies, anecdotes, moving images, and information about the great Senator Kennedy has certainly been an emotional torrent for me and my entire family as I know has been the case for many, many others around the world really.  Underlying the emotions has been a gnawing feeling of inadequacy in terms of being able to do anything for the Kennedy family that might convey the grief and sorrow we feel along with them for the loss of such an unusual and outstanding human being.  I live too far away to have gone to the street to honor him and the family as his motorcade passed so can only hope that the family understands that for every person who stood along the way to physically demonstrate their admiration, respect, and affection for Senator Kennedy and the Kennedy family there were thousands upon thousands, if not millions, more who felt the very same way.

    As fitting and proper as all of it was, it somehow felt to me still inadequate but then I don't know that there's any way for the nation to ever fully honor Senator Kennedy for all he did, to even approach repaying the Kennedy family or to express our love and solidarity with them adequately.  How could we ever possibly return to them what they have given to us?  It is my deep hope that the love of so many provides some comfort to them and that they will always be able to find some solace knowing that so many feel as they do about the incredible Senator Ted Kennedy and all the other members of the Kennedy family.

    I grew up in what can only be described as a Kennedy household.  I was a mere toddler in 1960 but my great-grandparents, grandparents and parents all proudly voted for John F. Kennedy for President.  Their homes all had Kennedy images in them.  When I was in kindergarten and the President was murdered my parents, but particularly my mother, just two years younger than Teddy, was inconsolable, sobbing in front of the tiny black and white tv for days until the funeral was over.  I stood by her side trying to comfort her to no avail.  I remember it all unfolding on tv with Walter Cronkite.  I wrote Teddy a letter around 1966 and got an autographed 8 x 10 photo of the dashing young Senator I cherish to this day.  The murders of Martin Luther King and Bobby Kennedy again swept my home with unparalleled grief and sorrow for which there seemed no consolation to my mother especially.  The emotions were so strong, that if I hadn't known better I would have thought these men members of our immediate family.  My father cried too, but as an ex-marine mostly supressed his tears as was the rule of manhood at the time.

    Through the years I got to meet Senator Kennedy a couple of times, briefly shake his hand and say hello.  I saw him in person on several other occassions.  I testified before one of his subcommittees while in college in Boston.  I had the honor of voting for him for President in the Massachusetts primary in 1980.  Senator Kennedy was always there, always fighting for what was right, always standing up for the values that had, from the beginning, bonded my family so close to his.  He was as much a fixture of the landscape as the Berkshires of Massachusetts.  Like others I have cried much and felt so much sadness the past few days and it is all bound up in this decades old relationship between the Senator's family and my own.  I feel a profound sadness that goes with this odd kinship I feel with them.  Like no others in our country the Kennedys, it seems to me, make us realize we are all in it together and have an obligation to care about and for each other.

    Of all the incredibly moving and heartwarming stories and anecdotes that I heard this weekened, two had more force and touched me more deeply than anything else.  The first was, of course, the eulogy of Ted, Jr. and the story about his father taking him out sledding. No human being could fail to be touched by the deep and abiding love that abounded both in the tale and in the telling of it.  And the other was a brief anecdote mentioned by Keith Olbermann in the minutes before the hearse arrived at the church where the funeral was to be held.  This is a paraphrase of what he said but close enough, I thnk, to accurately convey the point.  I had never heard the story before.

    Olbermann said that one day someone asked Senator Kennedy why it was he always took up the side of the poor and fought for them and why did he care?  The Senator, looking almost angry and offended, took a minute before he spoke and said simply in reply "Have you never read the Bible?"  For me, that response explained not only his championing of the poor, the dispossesed and the downtrodden, it explained everything about what motivated him in his public life and what is at the center of the great family he was a part of.  Godspeed Senator, and Godspeed to all your family too.

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    I saw Ted Jr. and agree it was one of the most moving stories. But your retelling here is the first time I've heard the other story. It fits in with the Gospel reading from the funeral, which made me cry - and made me wonder about the Christianity of some Christians.

    “For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat ... I was sick and you looked after me ... Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you ... When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you? ... I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.”

    “Have you never read the Bible?” indeed.


    Oleeb, thank you for sharing such personal things and putting in context for us?

    "Have you never read the bible" jumps off the page and you just much enriched my appreciation and understanding of Kennedy and I will remember you for this, thanks much indeed.

    Turning from the sublime to the Pedestrian, I appreciated Orrin Hatch's story of having Kennedy red-faced on the floor, fuming and spitting out rage, singling out Hatch in some cases, then walking off in disgust and utter indignation. And a few moments later, moving over to Hatch, putting his arm around the livid Senator, and impishly inquiring, "Well, Orrin, how'd I do?"

    Also excellent was him going up to wet-behind-the-ears Obama and getting the latter to pledge his vote but to say he doubted Kennedy could get nearly enough votes to pass. But it did pass easily, and when Obama wanted to know how TF that had happened, Kennedy just smiled, "Luck of the Irish!"

    Forgive me the small stuff, what you put up is great, and thank you truly for enlightening us -- people like you make this site what it is.

    Best,
    O.T.


    Wonderful Oleeb. Really touching.

    Thank you.


    Oleeb,

    The documentary (HBO but CNN has been running it too) that Senator Kennedy himself put together before he died is absolutely wonderful. I was spellbound. Incredible.

    I turned on the funeral service, et al. and again was riveted to my chair and was fine until Ted Jr. spoke about the 'trek up the icy hill'. That did it. Tears, more than just salty wet tracks running down my cheeks, gushed out.

    I so appreciate this post and your sharing of your 'relationship' with the Kennedys, et al.

    Rec'd.


    Olbermann said that one day someone asked Senator Kennedy why it was he always took up the side of the poor and fought for them and why did he care? The Senator, looking almost angry and offended, took a minute before he spoke and said simply in reply "Have you never read the Bible?" For me, that response explained not only his championing of the poor, the dispossesed and the downtrodden, it explained everything about what motivated him in his public life and what is at the center of the great family he was a part of. Godspeed Senator, and Godspeed to all your family too.
    _____

    Th person who first told that story was the person who, while on the road with Kennedy on a campaign, asked that question: "Boston Globe" columinst Thomas Oliphant. (It wasn't a hostile question: Oliphant is an old-style "New Deal"/"Kennedy Liberal".)

    Kennedy's answer was not "bible" but "New Testament".


    So the Friday night "Irish Wake" was nationally televised? I'd hoped as much.

    I was quite surprised by Orrin Hatch's stories, and found especially funny the one about "A fight not joined is a fight not enjoyed".

    And that of the former Senator from Iowa about the boating experience.

    The Ted, Jr. story was one of the best of them all.


    Well that's what Olberman said and what I was restating. Thanks for the footnote.


    Kennedy's answer was not "bible" but "New Testament".

    That's because Ted Kennedy had read the Bible.

    =D

    I gave up being a Catholic long ago, but I was schooled in it, and took from it the same things Kennedy did.

    At least, I like to think so.


    Well being a cheeecken, technically you're not eligible for the Catholic sacraments, so that parting of the ways probably was inevitable! Nice to see you took what Teddy did; I'd like to think the same of myself. Most days.


    I wasn't raised Catholic but, like you, took from it the same things Kennedy did.


    That is what is said to have been behind Kennedy's good works. At the same time, it's said he shied away from attaching those values to "God". I think probably honoring separation of church and state.


    I was an attempted Catholic: my mother attempted to make us Catholic, but failed.

    Paradoxically, though:

    During high school, while separating myself from that particular brand of chain, by in fine examination of those values under pressure of reading Mark Twain, I ended up taking those values more seriously than the "good Catholics" I knew, who to this day go to church every Sunday -- then revert the next day to their weekday morals.

    The values are portable; and thanks to moralist Twain, I came to know that everywhere is "church".


    Thank you. Oleeb, for saying so eloquently what so many of us feel.
    No one who felt Ted's embrace, or glowed in the warmth of his smile, or sparked from the glint in his eye, or who felt safer because someone who was nominally in charge actually cared, will ever forget him. Or fail to honor him. And thank him, humbly, for ultimately being all he could be, and then being more.
    A role model for all flawed beings to emulate.


    To quote one of my favorite Chevy Chase lines:

    "Mary Jo Kopechne could not be reached for comment."


    What a classy guy you are.


    Sorry - I couldn't resist. Kennedy wasn't so classy either.


    Ya know, it would not upset me if I never saw one of your objectionable comments polluting another post on this site whether mine or anyone else's. Every comment from you is repulsive and intentionally offensive. You should be ashamed of yourself but I know you aren't so please resist the urge don't respond. If you don't even have enough decency to refrain from this sort of puerile garbage I consider you even lower than I did before (and that's pretty low).


    It's not meant to be offensive. I simply think that Kennedy, while doing a lot of public good in Congress, is given a hall pass for all the bad things he did. The reality is that he never would have been in the position he was if it wasn't for his last name.

    He got away with manslaughter, was kicked out of Harvard for cheating, drove his wife to become an alcoholic and screwed any woman who had two legs. And lets not forget about the night he was partying with his nephew down in Florida.

    He wasn't the saint that people on here are portraying him to be.


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