I'm gonna say some things here that perhaps you won't want to hear, especially in a venue like this. I will say it never the less.

There's a reason why Donald Trump made it this far, why he is gaining in the polls and why he could even win.

I live in Berkeley, California right now and since living here, I have met several young men, generally in my age range, who are in the same boat. They had been engaged or married (which ended for whatever reason) and found themselves, despite working and accomplishing what they were generally supposed to, alone, isolated and amongst people in the same boat.

This came off several experiences with women, gays and other minorities in this society in which attempts at empathy were just out right spit on. I dated a girl after my wife passed who was overtly flirtatious, to the point of really overt public displays of affection, who then acted like I had "read the signals wrong" and rebuffed me in ways that even she described as "harsh."

I will admit that experiences like that, along with seeing almost no couples made of Americans here in Berkeley or in Seattle, has made me trepidacious when it comes to the opposite sex. I have tons of female friends and my wife was Canadian but they have largely been from other cultures. Most social experiences in this country seem to be some sort of countdown to an identity crisis. 

And so it is that one becomes socially marginalized. Where once these things were low key, I've had so many stereotypes, from having ADHD to being Hispanic to being white privileged to being Jewish, thrown at me in recent years, that I can only imagine how the traditional white male has responded. That doesn't mean I agree with their POV - I'm not seen as one of them - but American society is so exhausted, so myopic and so deranged that it can mold someone in to something ugly.

This is a big problem of the US left. It has regularly traded identity for solidarity, casting aside the examples of revolutionary politics south of our border for some bourgeois chauvinism that is really only good at finding people to sneer at. While Bernie Sanders made a good run at trying to focus on the issues of inequality that cause all of this, Trump and Clinton ultimately was a succession to identity politics because this society really doesn't know how to go to the meat of things and, I suspect, doesn't want to because it fears what it will find. 

Despite knowing people abroad who I could very well spend a life with, I feel socially and financially trapped here as well as politically. Customs often screens Americans like crazy and I'm socialized 100 percent as an American. When one is trapped, cornered and finds that pitfalls and mirrors are behind every alleged escape route, they go crazy, whether they are a man, woman, black, white,  Hispanic, Jewish, Asian or whatever. And setting up society like that is why a mad dog made it this far and why you may get a mad dog in office.

Try a different sort of society and a different approach to other people if you don't like that result. We all helped to make it happen.