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Well, part of my lovely

PeraclesPlease — Mon, 04 Dec 2017 06:23:00 +0000

In reply to I know, and I agree. A job

Well, part of my lovely weekend was hearing a long grown-up neighbor was *still* being sexually abused by her father. Who knows what long-term issues she has, what inability to get away, what financial and life dependency she still has on him, etc. That isn't to say every woman has this kind of problem, but I've known a lot in rather desperate sorts, so that a "great mistake" might be much less mistake than maintaining the status quo. And remember, getting through an HR asshole is often a 1 time trip past Cerberos, and the rest of the organization can be normal. I went through 1 such HR person - head of dept - a while ago offering some services, and was unsurprised to hear a few months later she'd since moved on - completely abrasive. Saved me having to mention it to the CEO next time I saw him.

Of course, the article is

barefooted — Mon, 04 Dec 2017 02:22:12 +0000

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Of course, the article is about far more than an outrageously inappropriate question during a job interview ... the problems that eventually arise usually aren't that overt from the start. The point, I think, is that how we perceive something from afar and then gauge our imaginary reaction to it is often the opposite of how we would react in reality to the same scenario.

You didn't "fail" anything back then, CVille. It's not about being brave - the very idea that even now those feelings are associated with a job interview from long ago is part of the problem we're still trying to solve. But that's just it ... accepting that we might be the person in the moment who isn't the spectator with all the right answers is not easy. Yet it's imperative that we recognize the difference.

I know, and I agree. A job

CVille Dem — Mon, 04 Dec 2017 01:48:41 +0000

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I know, and I agree. A job interview can be the difference between making rent, or even more important things. As a nurse I never had to worry about this particular kind of stuff (during an interview), so maybe I did make light of it. But seriously, if someone asks you a question like that, how could any woman expect that the job would be anything but a major mistake?

But seriously, the question is really about what a woman would do when asked an insulting question during an interview...I failed that in the mid-seventies when I interviewed for a position in a medical clinic. The doc who interviewed me (who was a colleague of my future husband) said he didn’t want to hire anyone who was single and my age because I might marry someone and move away. I left without comment.

So, I was not brave at all. Of course that was legal at the time for him to say stuff like that. Now you just can’t say it.

Sounds nice & simple, but a

PeraclesPlease — Sun, 03 Dec 2017 22:19:56 +0000

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Sounds nice & simple, but a lot of times when people go for interviews, they desperately need the job, and playing cat-and-mouse with personnel departments who already hold all the cards isn't the first thing that comes to mind. And of course they play more games with people who are less self-assured, so you wouldn't necessarily see the worst of their behavior.

I would know immediately that

CVille Dem — Sun, 03 Dec 2017 20:59:27 +0000

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I would know immediately that this wasn’t the job for me. If I thought quickly enough, I would pull out my phone and say that I was going to call his supervisor...then I would stare at the phone and say that I had accidental recorded the interview. Oops!

i can be a pretty good actress in improv. It almost sounds like fun.

I dunno, I'm a pretty tough

PeraclesPlease — Sun, 03 Dec 2017 18:20:57 +0000

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I dunno, I'm a pretty tough guy... on the internet.