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Tip. Thank the head hunter

Flavius — Thu, 07 Dec 2017 15:44:49 +0000

In reply to About a decade ago, another

Tip. Thank the head hunter.Even if all you got via her was an interview send a note thanking her anyway when you're finally employed somewhere.Being sure of course to describe the glories of the new position.

Maybe not same phenomenon as

PeraclesPlease — Thu, 07 Dec 2017 15:23:37 +0000

In reply to Battle of the Sexes: On Bonsai Trees & Suburban Myths

Maybe not same phenomenon as my "First" above, but here's an item that says how things end is more memorable than how they averaged:

Behavioral economist Daniel Kahneman and psychologist Barbara Fredrickson developed the “peak-end rule,” which holds that people judge events not by the overall experience but by some combination of how they feel at the most extreme part and at the end of the event. One example: Kahneman and his colleagues had study subjects immerse their hands in 57-degree water for 60 seconds and, separately, do the same thing with the other hand but tack on an additional 30 seconds while slightly warming the water to a temperature of 59 degrees. Given a choice, the subjects opted to repeat the longer trial. Experiences that end with a bad part are more likely to be recalled as unpleasant than if a miserable part comes toward the beginning, even if the average discomfort is the same.

About a decade ago, another

HSG — Thu, 07 Dec 2017 12:55:22 +0000

In reply to You don't even catch up when

About a decade ago, another friend of mine found himself out of work after many years in the financial services industry. He started a web-based business out of his home because he realized that, as a man in his mid-40s, his chances of landing another Wall Street job were very slim. Most of the hiring managers were younger than he was. He too spends as much or more time with his kids as his EVP wife does (or at least as she did until her employer was taken over a few years ago).

Yup

Flavius — Thu, 07 Dec 2017 10:59:52 +0000

In reply to You don't even catch up when

Yup

You don't even catch up when

PeraclesPlease — Thu, 07 Dec 2017 06:03:03 +0000

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You don't even catch up when you're a 45-year-old man competing with an office of twenty-somethings raised on the next generation rules and tech. Unless you were one of the lucky ones winning the pyramid scheme of narrowing management or other select positions, you begin to get weeded out. If it's physically demanding? Probsbly out on your ass long before.

80% of life is showing up.

Flavius — Thu, 07 Dec 2017 05:13:29 +0000

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80% of life is showing up.

Woody Allen

Not just "mental outlooks" would have to " take root" for our way of thinking to reverse. Also some biological changes.

Until some brilliant female obstetrical researcher comes up with a fix ,only women will bear children. With the associated career-handicapping consequences.

In some careers.

In law, medicine ,education and a long list of other "individual practitioner " careers a woman can take time off to have a baby and resume her career where she left off. Not in industry. There you not only need to do things, you need to do them with "others". You learn by doing . And one thing you learn by doing is how to do things with others.

While Tillie- the- toiler is home having her beautiful baby, things are happening back at the Company. Bad things that have to be fixed. Good things to be exploited. By Mack who's still there punching the clock and showing up.

And even if Tillie returns in three months it's Mack who'll get the next promotion.

You don't catch up when you're a 35 year old mother competing with an office full of 28 year people who were there during the last crisis.

Anecdotal support for your

HSG — Wed, 06 Dec 2017 23:36:02 +0000

In reply to Battle of the Sexes: On Bonsai Trees & Suburban Myths

Anecdotal support for your thesis: I was just speaking to a male friend who works full-time out of his suburban home. His wife works part-time but in an office in Manhattan. He was bragging about the time he spends taking his daughters to school and playdates.