I liked her roommate's "you

PeraclesPlease — Wed, 16 Oct 2019 17:16:10 +0000

In reply to Yup on this part especially:

I liked her roommate's "you keep showing up - you must be getting something out of it". As for Keeler, I didn't think she saw hera of a victim, unlike Monica. Ok, over time, going thru money with lawyers, etc, but still...

Yup on this part especially:

artappraiser — Wed, 16 Oct 2019 17:07:49 +0000

In reply to Showing Up: New York women from the middle ages

Yup on this part especially:

Looking back, it would be easy to say I behaved like this out of some instinctive subordination to the man’s power. There’s an element of truth to that, but there’s also an angle at which the situation could be viewed as quite the opposite. From this angle, I behaved the way I did because in some ways the power imbalance between the two of us was tipped in my favor.

I was young and the man was twice my age. He may have had professional power over me, but it was limited and in no way unilateral. In fact, thanks to the personal details I’d siphoned out of him, I probably could have placed one phone call and made his life very difficult. And so I carried on with my coquettishness until somehow the meals became fewer and farther between and then finally ended, probably because he took up with someone else. I carried on this way because my life was an open horizon and his was an overstuffed attic.

I behaved this way because I must have known on some unconscious level that, at 25, I had more of a certain kind of power than I was ever going to have in my life and that I might as well use it, even if the accompanying rush was laced with shame.

This is why women like Monica Lewinsky and Christine Keeler were not victims of anything like harassment. Not until the media and the world got a hold of their private story, that is. Then they became terrible victims of having their personal private peccadilloes uncovered for all the world to see. It's fun until you get caught doing it. To cry harassment after the fact of this kind of thing is bullshit, all they were doing is playing with power, learning about it.

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I liked her roommate's "you

Yup on this part especially: