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Well lucky for me, I'm a bit

Orlando — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 16:38:45 +0000

In reply to honestly, who cares if you

Well lucky for me, I'm a bit bipolar. On the days I think my writing is crap and I'll never get published, I just wallow. It's on the days I think I'm brilliant that I submit stuff.

honestly, who cares if you

Deadman — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 15:25:49 +0000

In reply to Deadman, I've been meaning to

honestly, who cares if you keep getting rejected? you put yourself and your work out there, and that's a brave and admirable thing. i've written tons of stuff, and even finished a couple items, only to shove them in the deep recesses of my computer's hard drive and let it rot there because i am convinced they're not good enough and i fear the rejection.

Yeah, I agree with you; I

Deadman — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 15:18:37 +0000

In reply to Seriously, this is damn good

Yeah, I agree with you; I think Revel in Rejection may be more accurate. plus, after writing the post, i did happen to Google the phrase Reject Rejection, and not surprisingly, I'm not the first to coin it. Even worse, most of the reject rejection links take you to very religious or vacuous self-help sites.

there was this funny reject rejection letter, though. (Various version of this letter are out there, so I'm not giving this guy any more originality points than I'm giving myself for reject rejection)

as far as this post helping you meet women, it most certainly will (if you can be unlike me and actually follow the advice). I can't guarantee it will help you score with women, but you'll meet them!!

It worked for Bill.

acanuck — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 07:35:06 +0000

In reply to Great one. You had me going

It worked for Bill.

Great one. You had me going

quinn esq — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 01:12:11 +0000

In reply to Seriously, this is damn good

Great one. You had me going all Leaves of Grass, and then.... Chicks. That's so good, it's sad.

Seriously, this is damn good

acanuck — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 22:32:34 +0000

In reply to The Secret of Success ...

Seriously, this is damn good advice. Although not as snappy as "Reject rejection," I think "Embrace rejection" or "Revel in rejection" would be more accurate terms.

I was struck that you used Walt Whitman as an example. His response to criticism was to actually absorb it, roll with it. So he rewrote and rewrote Leaves of Grass, adding and refining until it was polished like a stone. But he didn't take his ball and go home, and he certainly didn't stop writing for fear of further rejection.

You say this will help me meet women?

I got rejected once. But then

quinn esq — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 02:25:16 +0000

In reply to Deadman, I've been meaning to

I got rejected once. But then they wrote back & said they'd made a mistake. And sent me free ice cream to try and suck up. Fark you, I told them. And truck nutz.

Deadman, I've been meaning to

Orlando — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 22:46:12 +0000

In reply to The Secret of Success ...

Deadman, I've been meaning to tell you this for a while. I don't know how to put it, so I guess I'll just come right out and say it:

I don't want to be your friend.

Ha. Just kidding. But really, you did set yourself up.

On the rejection front, it took me five years to finish what is not a very good novel, or at least not worth five years. At the end, I lollygagged and procrastinated and kept finding little things to change. But finally I finished. And then I got rejected. And I got rejected again. And again. And it really wasn't that bad. If I'm still being rejected a year or two from now, I might have a different outlook, but it's true that if you never try for fear of not getting what you want, you'll never get what you want.