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Orlando, I just wanted to

~flowerchild~ — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 02:18:00 +0000

Orlando, I just wanted to leave a note in sympathy. You have probably heard a lot of shared stories about Alzheimer's...those of us who have lived on the other of this disease that ravages ones we love don't have to say a word, really. But, I will share this...my older sister died last September after a ten year struggle. We were all at her side in her home with the wonderful help of a hospice.

When things calmed a little, I looked over at my niece and could not help but notice how lighter she looked. She carried a lot of the care of her mother on her shoulders and it was a heavy load in more ways than one, not the least of which was the fact that her mother did not recognize the 'girl that comes to take care of me' as her own daughter.

I remarked how unburdened she looked, and she told me she had been grieving for five years already, ever since the last time her mother looked at her and she saw that brief flicker of recognition in her eyes before it went out forever. She was glad her mom was released finally from this terrible disease.

So, yeah. Grief. I hope you soon find peace in your heart, Orlando.

Orlando, I am so sorry. I

Bluesplashy — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 00:25:29 +0000

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Orlando, I am so sorry. I wish I could bring you food, run some errands for you and sit next to you for a while.

We all appreciate that you

acanuck — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 20:25:40 +0000

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We all appreciate that you chose to share, O. It's what friends do.

Much love, Orlando. q

quinn esq — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 19:13:34 +0000

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Much love, Orlando. q

Thank you for sharing, O. I

Deadman — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 17:10:21 +0000

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Thank you for sharing, O. I am glad the ending was peaceful, and the suffering is over for your mom, and for you and your family. what an awful, awful disease.

Explicit is good. When the

Orlando — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:35:20 +0000

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Explicit is good. When the call came, the first thing they asked was "Do you want us to send her to the emergency room or make her comfortable?" I knew exactly what they were asking, and even though I'd signed all the DNR papers long ago, they still make you say it. I think it was the hardest moment of all, knowing what I was agreeing to. But my mom was very clear, both in conversations and in signing a living will, what she wanted. I can't imagine what that moment would have been like if I had actually had to make a decision.

I'm grateful that my parents

Nebton — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 16:23:24 +0000

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I'm grateful that my parents are both still in good health. I don't really want to think about them dying, although both parents have given me some indication of what to do in that case, with my father being far more explicit.