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A- depends. B- depends. C-

CaliforniaPaige — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:41:05 +0000

In reply to 10) Pick one: a) Band or DJ?

A- depends. B- depends. C- no opinion. D- Sushi. E- the couple's favorite flavor. F- individualized. G-depends on the style of the rest of the wedding. H- I'd say yes, but maybe that's 'cause I've never been anywhere close to getting married. I- china, just 'cause it's easier to split into sub-gifts for the peeps. J- depends on the caterer and venue. Not having choice cards is classier/easier on the peeps, but classier doesn't hold much weight if it's going to mean some people can't get what they'd want 'cause the caterer runs out.

Typical wedding meal? The

CaliforniaPaige — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:35:55 +0000

In reply to 7) Best part about the

Typical wedding meal? The food usually seems pretty "blah" -- cake included -- so I'd have to go with drinks. Though I've definitely had some excellent wedding meals, too. And I love it when people vary the "cake" idea: layered (on platters) tiramisu for a friend who doesn't like cake; cupcakes (they're "in" now, can be very tasty, and allow for a nice variety of flavors); a flat, white goat cheese wheel (for a couple very fond of cheese).

Short, sincere, personalized

CaliforniaPaige — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:30:57 +0000

In reply to 2) Think back to the weddings

Short, sincere, personalized ceremony. Not too hot. If I was working, not having friends there. If if wasn't, having at least a few people I knew and liked to talk to. Bride and groom at least appearing to be unstressed. Fantastic homebrew beer. Beautiful setting. Kids playing.

At a friend's wedding

CaliforniaPaige — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:26:15 +0000

In reply to 1) What's the one song you

At a friend's wedding recently, "In My Life" by the Beatles seemed highly appropriate. They did the iPod thing, btw -- totally worked great.

For me, or to attend? To

CaliforniaPaige — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:20:59 +0000

In reply to 4) What's your ideal wedding:

For me, or to attend? To attend -- big party, but not particularly lavish. For me -- ideal but unrealistic would probably be a destination thing; but I wouldn't be able to keep the guest list small enough.

Bouquet toss. Especially

CaliforniaPaige — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:16:12 +0000

In reply to 6) What is one wedding

Bouquet toss. Especially when the bride starts shouting out the names of her single friends when she sees they're not on the floor. One of my friends actually had a special "tossing" bouquet prepared that split into a dozen mini-bouquets mid-air. I thought that was a cool way to modify the tradition, but I'd rather do without the embarass-the-single-girls-while-emphasizing-that-they-won't-be-whole-until-wed bit entirely.

Wait, that hasn't been

CaliforniaPaige — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:12:47 +0000

In reply to The "obey" bit. Presumably,

Wait, that hasn't been obliterated yet?

I haven't gone through my own

CaliforniaPaige — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 09:09:10 +0000

In reply to 5) If you've gone through

I haven't gone through my own wedding, but I've been "professionally" involved in enough that I feel qualified to comment: plan all the details that matter ahead of time, but on the wedding day itself don't worry about any of it. Something's going to go wrong; someone will get lost on the way, things won't start on time, whatever... And ultimately none of that will matter. Also, don't worry about what "people do" in planning your wedding. Everyone does it differently, and the only thing that matters is that you figure out what's important to you (and possibly your family, especially if they're paying).

Don't try to make everyone

Terri — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 16:28:30 +0000

In reply to 5) If you've gone through

Don't try to make everyone else happy...this is you and your future wife's special day!

On the details of your special day that really matter to the two of you - make it the way you want it, even if others are suggesting to do it another way (and even if they're helping to pay for it). These are the things that will make it memorable for you.

As far as everything else - don't sweat it. If you don't care what food will be served or what time the bouquet will be thrown then don't worry about those details...let the others helping you plan/pay take the lead and run with it so there is less stress for the two of you.

One final note - What's the worst thing that can happen? Your wedding is a disaster and you still wake up the next day with your beautiful new bride next to you. Not so bad right?

At my cousin's wedding, the

DF — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 18:25:03 +0000

In reply to Best I've seen are the ones

At my cousin's wedding, the fun got started after her husband-to-be's hard-drinkin' Croatian family got into the sauce. First there was the debacle over his mother's dessert offering, which she began to feel was not featured prominently enough. After telling my aunt off, she fled to the ladies room to cry. It look nearly a dozen female guests to talk her down.

I thought that would be the end of the fun, but then the DJ decided that my uncle, a friend of his, wasn't paying him enough. He got in my uncle's face and told him so, but this resulted in my uncle throwing him up against a wall and telling him to get the hell out of the reception hall.

And this was a nice, non-denominational wedding in Berkeley. Weddings rule.