there's also NYTimes knives out along the lines of "if we are going to pick on Trump for nepotism, well then"

EDITORIAL NOTEBOOK: Being the Mayor’s Wife Shouldn’t Be a Paying Job

By Clyde Haberman, March 12

To be clear for those who don't want to "spend" a NYT click, she isn't paid, but she is clearly presented as a working partner, to the point where he keeps doing stuff like official pronouncements include her name along with his. Excerpts:

No doubt, Mayor Bill de Blasio convinced himself that he was raising consciousness. But mostly he raised eyebrows, sky high, with a lament that his wife, Chirlane McCray, isn’t allowed to collect a paycheck on the taxpayer’s dime.

“I don’t understand it,” he said the other day, “because if someone is working full time and is a professional with a whole lot of background and applying themselves, I don’t understand why they can’t get paid.”

Let’s explain it to him. It’s called nepotism, and it’s clearly outlawed under the City Charter,

and 

Last month, a City Hall news release said, “Mayor de Blasio and First Lady Chirlane McCray Appoint J. Phillip Thompson as Deputy Mayor for Strategic Policy Initiatives.” Cue the raised eyebrows. Ms. McCray has no power to appoint anyone. The mayor’s press office changed “appoint” to “announce.”