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    Does knowing you die affect how you live?

    In another post, TheraP asked the following question:

     

    "So, how do you value your life?   How do you value what is most precious but cannot last?  Does it affect how you live, knowing you will die?"

     

    This is a very important question in my opinion.  I posted a response and TheraP suggested I post it on it's own.  I respect TheraP's opinion so am posting my response here in response to that request with a minor change or two in the hope it is of some value.

     

    Having grown up and been raised in the very serious and dour religion inherited from many generations this is the sort of question that is present at all times for me.  It is present not because I am necessarily a believer in the religion but because the question is vitally important and valid on it's own to each of us in relation to this world, to other human beings in the present and also both to those who have gone before and who are to come. I believe the context of our existence is important and that we have an ongoing relationship to the past, present, and future.  What we do with our lives is important, if for no other reason, because our lives impact the world and have consequences.

    As Americans, this viewpoint has always been present since before independence. That is why the Constitution speaks in terms of forming a more perfect union "to ourselves and our Posterity." The generation of the founders understood well that their actions had meaning and influence not just in their lives and times but far out into the future. Our lives too impact the lives of others today and in times to come far beyond the time we actually live. If we are not mindful of that we are still having an impact. One hopes that by being mindful, by caring about the impact of each individual life and of our collective impact in the present we can improve the human condition in some way.

    One needn't have the Puritan heritage or be a child of The Enlightenment to think this way. Gandhi and King had very different origins and beliefs but each focused on the same goal. One needn't be a saint or a selfless devotee of a strict life regimen to help bend the "arc of the moral universe" more toward justice. Whether we do this in our individual lives or on a grander scale we achieve something of value, we leave a positive mark. All actions great and small matter. All kindness, decency, fairness, love, respect, courage, compassion, strength, suffering, joy, sacrifice and celebration contribute to leaving a positive mark. The opposite is also true.  Hate, greed, moral indifference, violence, and so on all leave a negative mark.  But I believe the power of love (for lack of a better catch all) is far greater than any other force.

    I cannot say that I know with certainty or even have much insight on why we are here, how we "ought" to behave and live our lives. But I do have faith in the ability of human beings to choose a positive path for their lives, one that is ruled not by fear but essentially lived with courage, confidence and in loving service to ourselves and to others.

    For me, life has to be more than a brief period of time that we inhabit our bodies and consume things until we die as lower life forms do. Having been given greater capacity and the ability to reason, it is our obligation to do and be more than that in my opinion. We owe it to ourselves and others.  In a real sense, we owe it to the universe that produced us and bestowed upon us these tremendous powers of understanding, reason, learning, self-awareness and more.

    And regardless of whether we have divine or cosmic purpose in our lives, as rational beings, can we not all see that whatever is going on, this planet is a magnificent and valuable living whole from which we are not separate and thus we would be crazy not to use the minds and muscles we have to preserve and improve it? If there is no other reason, we at least should keep the world and improve conditions for future inhabitants because we wish upon them the magnificent and wonderous experience this planet can be. That alone should be enough of a moral imperative for us all to want to leave a positive mark in the universe during our lives. I don't believe it to be so, but even if it is a losing or even futile proposition I choose to be on the side of mindful, positive action.  Whether or not there is any cosmic "reward" why not do good when you can?  If nothing else, I believe it to be a better use of what little time I've got here on earth. I figure we may as well make it count for something positive right?

    Of course, that's just my opinion, my perspective, and everyone else is entitled to their own and just as entitled to ignore mine.

    One last thing I'd add is a quote I read often to myself because it comes from one far wiser than I will ever be:

    "When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants, and murderers, and for a time they can seem invincible, but in the end they always fall.

    Think of it - always."

    - Mahatma Gandhi

     

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    I'm just going to repeat here my original comment to oleeb:

    oleeb, that is so moving! So good and true.

    It's the kind of thing that should be shouted from the rooftops. And quoted by Obama. It is eloquent, powerful. It reaches right to the heart!

    ............

    If you don't get enough traffic with the current title, then change it to something like:

    bend the "arc of the moral universe"

    TheraP is selling this. Your language is exquisite.

    All kindness, decency, fairness, love, respect, courage, compassion, strength, suffering, joy, sacrifice and celebration contribute to leaving a positive mark. The opposite is also true. Hate, greed, moral indifference, violence, and so on all leave a negative mark. But I believe the power of love (for lack of a better catch all) is far greater than any other force.

    That is pretty. If I had more of the poet in me I would say more.


    I may have hawked his post. But the words and sentiments are oleebs's for sure.


    Well this fits really well with TheraP's blog and bookends it. I like the essential deep ethic argued...that rewards for self do not motivate or justify work for the common good.

    All too often I think our ethics, our very own self-valuation is based on some kind of reward-punishment scheme. We might as well be lab rats doing tricks for cheese.

    I used to go around repeating a quiet prayer in my heart, "Lord, let me love Thee"* Why? Because I knew damn well in that my deep heart of hearts I had no love for God, or really anyone else either. I had fear ("wisdom" right?) but no love. I really wasn't a very ethical person, so if I by chance did good, it wasn't out of the concerns Oleeb mentioned: for those who come after, or for appreciation of this wonderful place, but more out of calculation.

    Oleeb's essay really reminds me of that journey to being a real human, of using the eye, and arm, and strength we found ourselves gifted with, to the good. But not over-tasking ourselves either! There is a great story:

    The Starfish Flinger

    An old man walked the beach and noticed a young man ahead of him picking up starfish and flinging them into the sea. Finally catching up with the youth, he asked him why he was doing this.

    The answer was that the stranded starfish would die if left until the morning sun.

    "But the beach goes on for miles and there are millions of starfish," answered the old man. "How can your effort make any difference?"

    The young man looked at the starfish in his hand and then threw it to safety in the waves.

    "It makes a difference to this one," he said.

    We shouldn't criticize ourselves if we can't repair the whole world, just what's in front of us, day by day. "To cover the whole earth in leather--all you need do is wear leather shoes."

    *Yes, TheraP, I too was influenced by Fr. Main but I never met him just had three of his books I don't even remember the titles just the colors red blue and brown I think "Word into Silence"?.


    Well said. Years ago I read a book by Nobel prize winning biochemist, Christian de Duve, Vital Dust, wherein he makes a case for the inevitability of life in he universe. In my own limited grasp of this concept I imagine the universe 'wants' to know itself, and life, including but not limited to homo sapiens, is manifested as a function of that tendency toward self knowledge. Totally oversimplified and partially confused, I know. Nevertheless, your statement "In a real sense, we owe it to the universe that produced us and bestowed upon us these tremendous powers of understanding, reason, learning, self-awareness and more.", struck a chord with that inclination of mine, that we are in fact here to go further, to become as fully self aware as possible as manifestations of the underlying longing of all beings, and the universe itself for self knowledge. Sound crazy? ...Perhaps.
    Rec'd.


    Great story on the Starfish Flinger, Lux.

    And the shoe leather.


    I actually have that story framed on the wall by my desk.


    I am in total agreement with you in regards to our planet. However we sculpt our lives, the effects can reach far into the future. I suppose its an individual battle of "Do I want to make my life as easy as possible now and let the future fend for itself, or tackle some real tough problems now to help generations to come?"

    Unfortunately I think our selfishness is winning out. Its kind of odd that we are selfish by necessity to ensure our own survival, yet our selfishness may be what ends up destroying us all... or maybe its not so odd. Balance is everything. If you don't drink enough water, you die... if you drink too much water, you die... I'm rambling. I'll shut up now.


    Frizzletoad, more than one spiritual tradition believes that the fate of the world is in the hands of only ten good people.

    So, even if the selfishness of many is winning out, it may take only the good of some to make a difference, if not to even turn things around. For that reason it behooves those of us who "hear the call" to do what we can - in every way we can, small as those efforts may seem at the time.

    Who would have believed, one year ago, that Obama would win?

    Let's believe: Yes. We. Can.


    Not crazy Miguel.

    There's a large school of theologians who're right there with you. Process theology, if you know it. A lot of it came out of Whitehead. John Cobb, David Griffin, Charles Hartshorne and my fave, DD Williams. Also, obviously, Teilhard had a lot of this juice.

    And I'm sure there're lots who think/believe the same within other faiths, as well as non-"religious" schools.


    I second TheraP's sentiments.

    Frankly, if all of us who would like to see a better world did not believe that a handful or even one person can make a critical difference, I think life would be unbearable in many ways. What hope then eh? If this belief and faith really, in humanity, had no basis in reality it would be one thing, but there are inumerable instances where we know that a handful of people or an individual, with tenacity and conviction not only beat the odds but helped advance human progress.


    I'd like to say thank you to each of you for your very kind sentiments. It's quite humbling.


    I just reread this for at least the fourth time. This time I read aloud to Mr. TheraP. It gets better every time! This is the kind of thing youngsters used to memorize and declaim for prizes back in the day. I would put it in a textbook for every child to read and discuss. I would put it on a monument. This is a comment for the ages.

    I understand you are humbled. Perhaps more so after these comments of mine.

    At the same time you are ennobling our efforts here. I truly believe it is possible to tune into the wisdom of a moment. To capture its meaning. To do that eloquently. Allowing that wisdom to flow through you. I think each of us has that capacity at times. We help bring out the best in each other. That synergy makes a difference.

    What beautiful thing it is to reach for the highest or the deepest in our humanity. And share that with others.

    I deeply honor that.


    This is all very noble; one would have to be churlish to disagree with it.

    The underlying question, not addressed, has to do with the self-righteous “values” crowd who have been doing their best to inflict Sharia-Lite on the rest of us. If you are a child of the Enlightenment, you know that you, in fact, are going to die. If you believe that you’ll keep on trucking at the feet of Jesus, then you behave differently. As one of the chose, you’ve been given a pass. Good to read James Hogg’s classic The Memoir and Diary of a Justified sinner, published in the early 19th century.

    Christmas is upon us and the Evangelicals are going through the ritual of giving to the poor and the rest of it. When Christmas is finished they’ll pat themselves on the back and continue as before.

    I say that the admonition to do onto others as they would do unto you is entirely logical, not divine, and it is found, phrased differently, in almost every religion on the planet. Ask yourself this question: Over the long haul, has more good and less evil been done by humanists or by religionists? I say humanists, hands down.


    Good points.

    Personally, I think the problem is not religion or religionists per se. Gandhi and King were both deeply religious and they continue to inspire the whole world. Neither of them were dogmatic in their beliefs and they didn't insist on dogma for others. Mao, on the other hand, was not religious yet in some ways became a dogma himself. He was (among many other things both good and bad) responsible for a great deal of horror, suffering and death.

    There are as many good as bad in every category. The kind of problems you mention that are often associated with religion, in my view, are the product of dogma and dogmatic belief systems that are rigid, and do not allow for adjustments, adaptation or change as circumstances change and/or knowledge increases. They all seem to share a resistance to modernity as well. They do a lot of denying. I think it is because they are fearful. Their dogma provides them comfort and unity in a rapidly changing, confusing and complicated world.

    My view is that whenever dogmatic belief takes hold whether in religion, politics, business, or any other realm you see problems associated with it. Often those problems stemming from dogmatic rigidity become massive. I can understand why people condemn so many of the religious people of the kind you describe. Their behavior is often maddeningly ignorant, overbearing, childish, boorish, authoritarian and utterly unnecessary. Throughout history, we know that all those that cling to religious beliefs that are clearly either scientifically disproven or that fly in the face of common sense and the world as we know it eventually wane and disappear.

    I think there are plenty of people out there who have beliefs that are simply shared, universal ideals that do not require a dogmatic approach. Anyway one gets there is okay with me.


    Hear, Hear! Well done, oleeb!


    I'm with ya! I certainly don't mean that people should give up the good fight, even if the odds are against them. I know my life has certainly been changed more drastically by the words of one than by the beliefs of millions. On the environment, however, I just don't think there is enough urgency, and I don't think there will be until a major catastrophe happens (and I know there are already terrible things happening, but I mean something harder to ignore), and by then it may be too late.

    But I would certainly LOVE to be proven wrong, and I'll still keep doing what I can to help.


    Thanks for the vote of confidence Q. It's nice to know you're not alone, although I've never quite known what to make of the concept of 'God' ala the process theologians or any other theologian. My own inclinations include some Zen Buddhism, Vipassana meditations, a bunch of stuff I've figured out over time, and some other stuff I made up.


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